Her soothing words, “this too shall pass”, were all it took to calm down the most stressful of situations. Kay’s boys knew they’d hear if they were doing something wrong, but Kay left little doubt that she’d be there for them no matter what. When her boys went to St. Joseph’s Grammar school she volunteered as a teacher and later worked as the school secretary. Earlier years found her working as an executive secretary for Clark Equipment in Michigan and later for Dupont, where she brought her organizational skills to bear. And, of course her home was just as organized: her shoes were stacked alphabetically, and Kay had a file or diary on just about everything. She had entertaining down to a science: when hosting an event, she’d look through her diaries dating back to the eighties for insight. Kay was no slouch when it came to cooking; her turkey made the holidays perfect and when the German girl came to South Jersey, friends taught her to cook Italian. Saturdays found her cheering her beloved Notre Dame: she could be heard all the way in South Bend. But, even with all she did, she somehow found a way to fit in a few cruises: 55 to be exact.
The young Kay Vogelsang would go out on a double date with two students from Notre Dame. John Wilbraham was the other girl’s date but fell for Kay at first sight; he’d ask her out the next day: Some Like it Hot at the drive-in theater, borrowing Kay’s mother’s car. A week after his graduation they’d marry. Their 56-year union was blessed by three boys: Thomas (Wade Kocsovsky), Patrick (Amy) and Christopher (Lori); and later by grandchildren, Tristan, Holly, Harry, Ava and Charlotte.
Come celebrate 78 great years Thursday 6-8 p.m. and Friday 9-10 a.m. at Daley Life Celebration Studio, Swedesboro. Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated Friday 11 a.m. at Church of the Incarnation, Mantua. Interment, St. Joseph Cemetery, Woolwich. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made in Kay’s memory to Holy Cross College, P.O. Box 308, Notre Dame, IN 46556-0308.